Welcome to the wild, honest, and sometimes hilarious world of the Beyond Monogamy podcast! I recently sat down with Adam and Pris, a longtime lifestyle couple who aren’t afraid to spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on everything related to ethical non-monogamy.
This conversation was a blast because we didn’t just talk theory—we talked about real life. As many of you know, I’ve been married to my husband, Tim, for 34 years. We’ve been in “the lifestyle” for over two decades, and I’ve had a wonderful boyfriend for five years. I’m not sharing case studies; I’m sharing what it’s actually like to live, love, and play in this space while maintaining a rock-solid primary partnership.
From Sexually Avoidant to Intimacy Expert
If you feel stuck or “shut down” right now, I want you to listen closely: I used to be a woman who avoided sex with my husband. Hard to believe, right? In this episode, I share the raw story of how I transformed from being sexually avoidant to becoming the person millions of people turn to for heart-connected intimacy advice.
We also dive into why Tim and I eventually dropped all the complex labels and simply started calling our relationship “open.”
Safety, Science, and “The Protocol”
When you step outside traditional monogamy, communication and safety become your best friends. I get very specific in this episode about the “business side” of pleasure, including:
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The 90-Day Rule: My non-negotiable STI screening protocol that has kept me and my partners safe for 20 years.
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Decoding the Lingo: What it actually means to be “fluid bonded” or “screened in,” and why every couple needs a clear protocol.
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Veto Power: Is it toxic or just solid relationship management? We hash it out.
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NRE (New Relationship Energy): How to navigate that “honeymoon phase” with a new partner when your primary partner might be seeing red flags you’re totally blind to.
Extending Your “Sex Span”
I’m a sexual biohacker, and I believe your sex life should only get better as you age. We talked about the cutting-edge tools I use to keep my body (and Tim’s!) performing at its peak:
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Nitric oxide boosters and hormone therapy.
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Acoustic wave, red light therapy, and stem cells.
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The science of Expanded Orgasm—that specific clitoral stroking practice that can turn a climax into a wild, long, rolling experience.
The Alchemy of Intimacy
At the end of the day, whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, or lifestyle-curious, it all comes down to the connection you have with yourself and your partners. I’m so excited to share more about my new book, The Alchemy of Intimacy, and the free resources I’ve created to help you on your journey.
Listen to the full episode with Adam & Pris here:
I’m Susan Bratton, and I’m here to tell you that there is a seat at the table for everyone. Let’s keep pushing the boundaries of what’s possible in our bedrooms and our hearts.
Are you ready to go beyond?