Life isn’t just something that happens to us—it’s something we design.
When I sat down with Blake Worrall-Thompson for The Life By Design Podcast, that was the core of our conversation. Blake has created an incredible space dedicated to unlocking transformation and exploring the tools needed to build a successful, fulfilling, and balanced life. But true fulfillment requires more than just professional success or physical fitness; it requires an intentional, awakened approach to your intimate life.
I was thrilled to join Blake to strip away the myths, the shame, and the “good enough” habits that keep so many people from experiencing the pleasure they deserve.
Moving Beyond “Low Libido”
Let’s get one thing straight: Low libido is bullshit. Most people aren’t suffering from a lack of desire; they are simply having the wrong kind of sex and don’t even know it. In this episode, we moved past the surface-level talk. I’ve written 34 books on sex, lived through over 1,000 threesomes, and reached a point where I can identify the type of orgasm someone is experiencing just by the sound—but that isn’t just trivia. It’s data.
It’s data that proves intimacy is a skill, a practice, and a nervous system reset.
Blake and I went deep into why it takes longer than you think to “get good” at intimacy together, and why technique is never the missing ingredient—it’s the connection. We unpacked the “Heart-Penis Connection,” why relationship values are the unsung heroes of a long-term partnership, and why you need to stop filtering yourself around people who can’t handle the real, authentic you.
What We Covered
If you are tired of mediocre intimacy and are ready for a real conversation about what actually makes sex feel “empty” versus what makes it feel transcendent, this episode is for you.
Here is a glimpse of what we tackled:
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The 1,000 Threesome Perspective: What I learned about human nature, desire, and boundaries between the first and the thousandth experience.
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The Truth About Open Relationships: I share my rules for navigating non-monogamy—and why I tell 95% of people to stick to monogamy.
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Heart-Penis Connection: How to bridge the gap between physical mechanics and emotional depth.
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Authenticity: Why you need to “find your weirdos” and stop shrinking yourself to fit into environments that don’t honor your true self.
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The Essentials: We also cut through the noise regarding STIs and how to have honest, adult conversations about health and safety.
This wasn’t just another interview—it was an uncensored look at what happens when you decide to stop settling for “duty booty” and start designing a life of radical, pleasurable honesty.
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If you’re interested in actually great sex and honest relationships, this conversation will change how you think about intimacy. I can’t wait to hear what you think.