Reclaiming Pleasure: My Conversation on ADHD, Motherhood, and Intimacy
Are you feeling “touched out”?
If you are a mother, you likely know the feeling well. You spend all day giving, managing, and organizing, and by the time you hit the pillow, your body feels like it belongs to everyone but you.
I recently had the absolute pleasure of joining Stacey Hutson and Stephanie Sprenger on their incredible podcast. It was a raw, honest, and deeply necessary conversation about the intersection of neurodivergence, the mental load of motherhood, and the often-overlooked necessity of sexual vitality.
If you’ve been feeling like your desire is stuck in neutral, or if the chaos of life is drowning out your connection with your partner, this post (and this episode) is for you.
About The Podcast
I love the mission Stacey and Stephanie are on. They describe their show as the podcast for “too much” moms who feel like they are failing at motherhood and don’t want to fail anymore.
As two ADHD moms of four girls, they are the first to admit they don’t have it all figured out. But they know one thing for sure: understanding our brains is the key to enjoying our motherhood, and our SELVES again.
They are brutally honest about the reality of “ADHD motherhood”—the missed Spirit Weeks, the mountains of laundry, and the nostalgia for our old “fun” pre-mom selves. They created this space so you know you’re not the only one struggling. Their philosophy is simple: once you know how to work with your ADHD brain rather than against it, it changes everything.
They are your people. And when they don’t have the answers, they bring on experts—which is where I came in!
What We Covered: Turning Friction Into Connection
In this episode, we didn’t shy away from the hard stuff. We dove right into the reality that motherhood often leaves women feeling disconnected from their bodies and just plain exhausted.
My goal was to help listeners reframe intimacy not as another “chore” on the to-do list, but as a superpower.
We discussed powerful insights on how ADHD specifically affects desire and libido, and why relaxation is actually the key to arousal (especially for the neurodivergent brain).
Here is a peek at what we explored in this episode:
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The ADHD Intimacy Struggle: Why moms with ADHD often find it harder to shift gears into intimacy—and exactly how to reclaim that part of yourself.
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Friction to Connection: The secret to taking the friction of daily life and transmuting it into deep, restorative connection with your partner.
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Brain-Based Pleasure: How to work with your unique brain wiring to experience deeper, more satisfying pleasure.
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Practical Passion: Actionable tips for reigniting the spark in your relationship, even when you’re tired.
Listen to the Episode
If you are ready to stop feeling like you are failing and start your journey toward more pleasure, connection, and confidence, I invite you to tune in.
Mentions & Resources
During the show, we talked about tools to help you reconnect. As promised, here are the links to dive deeper:
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My Free Resource: Download The Sexual Soulmate Pact to get on the same page with your partner.
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More Wisdom: Explore my articles and guides at BetterLover.com
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Let’s Connect: Follow me on Instagram @susanbratton.
A Note on Overwhelm
We also touched on the sheer mental load of motherhood. If you are feeling buried, check out Faye. Think of Faye as a personal assistant—but not the stiff, corporate kind. She is like the super-capable best friend who sees you struggling and actually wants to help you manage the load so you have more time for you.
Remember: You deserve pleasure. You deserve connection. And you can have it all, even amidst the beautiful chaos of motherhood.
With love and vitality,
Susan Bratton