Can You Really Have the Best Sex of Your Life After Betrayal?
“Sex isn’t something you’re supposed to just know—it’s something you learn. And when you do, it changes everything.”
If you have followed my journey for any length of time, you know that I don’t shy away from the hard stuff. I’ve been open about the infidelity that nearly ended my marriage, the breakdown of our sexual connection, and the rocky, beautiful road we took to rebuild it into something stronger than before.
Betrayal can rupture more than just trust. It can sever your connection to pleasure, to your own body, and to your sense of worthiness. It makes you want to close off, shut down, and protect your heart.
But what if the path to healing didn’t require shutting down? What if the true antidote to betrayal was actually more joy, more intimacy, and the best sex of your life?
I recently sat down with Lora Cheadle on the FLAUNT! podcast, and let me tell you—we went deep. We didn’t just talk about “getting over” an affair; we explored how to use that pain as a catalyst to reignite desire, not just with a partner, but within yourself.
In this episode, I share my raw, personal story—from the devastation of infidelity to the exploration of an open marriage, and finally, to reclaiming our sexual sovereignty. We discuss practical tools for somatic healing, how to actually talk about sex without fighting, and how to extend your “sex span” well into your later years.
If you are feeling broken, disconnected, or just wondering if “this is as good as it gets,” this episode is for you.
Top 3 Takeaways From My Conversation on FLAUNT!
Here is a glimpse of what Lora and I unpacked during the show:
1. Healing Is a Mind-Body Journey
You cannot think your way out of betrayal trauma. Healing requires somatic integration—getting into the body to process the emotions stored there. It also requires relational repair. We talk about why the goal isn’t just “getting over it,” but expanding through it to become a more whole, integrated version of yourself.
2. Sexual Vitality is the Fourth Health Factor
We often treat sex like a luxury—something we’ll get to if we have the time or energy. I’m here to tell you that great sex isn’t a bonus; it’s essential. I classify it right alongside sleep, nutrition, and exercise. Regular intimate pleasure enhances your immunity, boosts cardiovascular health, builds emotional resilience, and even improves brain function.
3. Communication Is the Cornerstone of Intimacy
Most couples don’t have a sex problem; they have a communication problem that shows up in the bedroom. In this episode, I share actionable tools you can use tonight, including the Soulmate Embrace and the Magic Pill Method. These are techniques designed to help you restore trust, reawaken desire, and co-regulate your nervous systems after a rupture.
Listen to the Episode
This conversation will change the way you think about sex, healing, and what is truly possible for your relationship. Whether you are navigating the aftermath of betrayal or simply want to deepen your connection, I invite you to listen in.
Remember, you are not broken. Your pleasure is your birthright. And it is never too late to learn how to have the intimacy you crave.
With love and pleasure,
Susan Bratton