Hey everyone!
I’m so excited to share about a truly engaging conversation I had recently on the Sexual Sovereignty podcast🎙️with the incredible Kenya K. Stevens. We dove deep into topics that are near and dear to my heart – female sexuality, relationships, and personal empowerment. It was a no-holds-barred discussion, and I think you’re going to love it!
Our Journey to Sexual Sovereignty
Kenya and I come from different backgrounds, and that really enriched our conversation. We explored how our racial and cultural upbringings have shaped our unique paths to sexual freedom.
For Kenya, it was about shedding the historical “ox” mentality often placed on Black women, making it hard to feel receptive to pleasure. Her journey has been about claiming her power and desiring to be truly worshipped in her sexuality.
My experience was different; I was raised with a strong sense of sexual sovereignty from a young age, without the burden of religious repression. This foundation allowed me to explore and understand my own sexuality freely, which ultimately led me to the work I do today
The Power of Emotional Space and Orgasm
One of the key themes we hammered home is that a woman’s orgasm isn’t just a physical event; it’s profoundly connected to her emotional freedom. We talked about how crucial it is for a man to “hold space” for a woman’s full spectrum of emotions, even before intimacy begins.
I introduced my “Sexual Soulmate Pact” – an agreement where men consciously acknowledge and encourage a woman’s requests and feedback during lovemaking, without letting their own emotions get in the way. Kenya really highlighted my “up level framework” for teaching men to do this, contrasting it with other more abstract approaches. We both believe in the power of a man staying calm and grounded when a woman expresses strong emotions, which can prevent arguments from escalating and foster deeper connection.
Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and Relationship Anarchy
Both Kenya and I are advocates for polyamorous relationships. I shared about my own “husband and a boyfriend,” and Kenya shared about her two husbands. For us, polyamory isn’t just about multiple partners; it’s about building a wider community and creating a sense of security.
We really challenged traditional monogamous structures and championed “relationship anarchy,” where the relationship configuration is chosen because it’s truly right for everyone involved. What’s amazing is that we both appreciate our partners having other relationships. It allows for so much personal growth and new, shared experiences that enrich everyone’s lives.
Menopause, Vitality, and Ecstatic Bliss
We also had a candid conversation about menopause and sexual vitality. Kenya shared her incredibly positive experience, attributing her graceful transition to frequent sexual experiences and even utilizing male fluids as a form of hormonal support.
As for me, I’m still menstruating, but I’m a firm believer in bioidentical hormone replacement therapy, including testosterone, to maintain my vitality and confidence. It’s so important to recognize that ovarian health extends far beyond just reproduction.
We then dove into the concept of achieving a “flow state of ecstatic bliss” in sexual experiences. This is where communication becomes nonverbal, and there’s a deep “limbic connection.” This state is actually linked to theta brainwave states, similar to deep prayer or meditation, where you can’t even distinguish your pleasure from your lover’s. It’s truly a profound experience.
Threesomes, Energy, and Libido Boosters
I shared some of my extensive experience with threesomes, highlighting my ability to share and run energy with multiple people simultaneously. This can lead to incredibly heightened orgasmic pleasure. It’s all about understanding and harnessing energy flow!
And of course, I couldn’t resist talking about some of my favorite libido-enhancing botanicals. I incorporate things like Tongkat Ali, Tribulus Terrestris, Fenugreek, Cacao, and Maca root into my supplement formulations, and I shared a bit about how these powerful plants can support your sexual health.
Embracing the “Trigger”
Finally, we discussed how our bold and confident presence can sometimes “trigger” others. We don’t shy away from this; instead, we view it as an opportunity for growth and learning for those who are triggered. We both acknowledge that putting ourselves out there publicly always leads to a mix of neutral, loving, and sometimes negative reactions, and that’s just part of the journey.
I really hope you’ll tune in to the Sexual Sovereignty podcast to hear the full interview. It was an incredibly rich and honest conversation, and I believe there’s something in it for everyone on their journey to greater sexual understanding and empowerment.
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